flist trim
May. 26th, 2010 11:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
growyourwingsI'm thinking doing a flist review and possibly some cuts. A case of my LJ use evolving into a lot more personal posting. If I cut it will be folks that I've friended back in the day when I friended everyone just 'cuz. This is not about cutting folks I talk with via LJ. I'll be looking over the next x days. If I cut inappropriately, let me know.
Edit: Dammit. I think I may have defriended someone inadvertantly. But I can't tell who I defriended wrongly. Dammit. I was amazed to see how many folks I'd friended in the past that I now have no idea who/why/what I friended them about. So I was going through and defriending a lot and I think I lost track. So you got a defriending message from me and you think it may have been inadvertant (especially if we've talked a lot via LJ), please let me know! I'm not done, but I may take a break and continue later since doing this on a day when I'm already home sick and not feeling well.... well that likely was not the best choice, since if I can't think clearly enough to work, doing flist trimming probably isn't too smart.
Edit2: Done. Why is this always so hard? I swear I rarely talked at all with any of the people I trimmed. But even so I always feel like a heel or something when I do this. And this is the biggest one I've ever done. About 20% of my total flist (which isn't that big to begin with.) And I'm pretty sure that the majority, if not all, of the people were those I'd friended very early on in my LJ life before I truly understood all the mechanical workings here. I so rarely friend anymore...waiting to strike up conversations either online or in RL before I add folks--mostly because it's so stupidly painful to trim the list. Instead I try to be more active in commenting on other's LJs or on my own public posts to actually strike up some kind of relationship/mutual interest thing before going the friend route.
And it doesn't help that I'm suffering from one of my vertigo spells today which makes me feel dizzy and disoriented and tends to cloud my thinking brain a bit. Feels like I'm in a bit of a fog. Haven't had one of these in almost 2 years. Forgotten how weird/draining they are. And laying down makes it worse so while it makes me tired, I don't want to lay down because it makes my head spin more. Ugh.
Ok, and it obviously increases my propensity for whining as well.
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Edit: Dammit. I think I may have defriended someone inadvertantly. But I can't tell who I defriended wrongly. Dammit. I was amazed to see how many folks I'd friended in the past that I now have no idea who/why/what I friended them about. So I was going through and defriending a lot and I think I lost track. So you got a defriending message from me and you think it may have been inadvertant (especially if we've talked a lot via LJ), please let me know! I'm not done, but I may take a break and continue later since doing this on a day when I'm already home sick and not feeling well.... well that likely was not the best choice, since if I can't think clearly enough to work, doing flist trimming probably isn't too smart.
Edit2: Done. Why is this always so hard? I swear I rarely talked at all with any of the people I trimmed. But even so I always feel like a heel or something when I do this. And this is the biggest one I've ever done. About 20% of my total flist (which isn't that big to begin with.) And I'm pretty sure that the majority, if not all, of the people were those I'd friended very early on in my LJ life before I truly understood all the mechanical workings here. I so rarely friend anymore...waiting to strike up conversations either online or in RL before I add folks--mostly because it's so stupidly painful to trim the list. Instead I try to be more active in commenting on other's LJs or on my own public posts to actually strike up some kind of relationship/mutual interest thing before going the friend route.
And it doesn't help that I'm suffering from one of my vertigo spells today which makes me feel dizzy and disoriented and tends to cloud my thinking brain a bit. Feels like I'm in a bit of a fog. Haven't had one of these in almost 2 years. Forgotten how weird/draining they are. And laying down makes it worse so while it makes me tired, I don't want to lay down because it makes my head spin more. Ugh.
Ok, and it obviously increases my propensity for whining as well.
.
